Are You A Boss… Or A Coach?

By Justin Dowiot, Youth Minister

The majority of us will come to the point in our relationship with Jesus when we realize that our faith has to be so much bigger than ourselves.  We realize that we desire for other people to experience the love of God in a real way. And we realize that WE need to do something about it.  We get passionate about helping others grow in their faith, we cling to Jesus’ words instructing us to make disciples (Matthew 4:19, Matthew 28:19, Mark 16:15).

But how do we make disciples?  Are you effective in helping others grow in their faith?  What is your approach?  Do you make disciples like a boss?  Or like a coach?

A boss will give initial instruction, point to things that need improvement, they create an agenda of what needs to be done, and they’ll review your performance.  A boss monitors your work to make sure you do what you’re supposed to do.

A coach gives repeated instruction.  Coaches demonstrate the specifics of how to accomplish specific feats, they work with you to help you improve, and help you find your best position.  A coach will game plan with you to find the most effective way to victory.

We need to be coaches to help others grow in their faith.  We have to stop being bosses, only giving upfront instructions, and then rebuking when our “disciple” didn’t grow in the way we had hoped.  We can no longer hand someone a Bible and hope they’ll figure it out on their own.  We have to be ready to come alongside our fellow Christ-follower, actively show them what it means to serve God, and go through life with them.  This is not a quick process—a coach has a journey for a season—you have to be willing and ready to go through a season of your life with someone else.

Paul and Barnabas are the ultimate example of the coach/disciple relationship.  Barnabas didn’t watch Paul minister, but he was there every step of the way.  Barnabas was around early in Paul’s (Saul, at that point) faith.  They spent serious time together, went on trips together, Barnabas took Paul into difficult situations, and they taught TOGETHER.  In the end, even though there was a disagreement between them, Paul was fully prepared to coach his own season.  He found others, like yourselves, that had the realization that their relationship with Jesus is too important to keep to themselves.

So, are you ready to coach?