05 Apr “Making Amends” By Kitty Holt
When I walked into church and saw the communion table, my heart sank as I recalled Paul’s admonition in 1 Corinthians to examine oneself before taking the bread and the cup, and the words of Matthew regarding making amends with your brother.
Several days earlier, a misunderstanding with “Chris,” a fellow Christian, significantly impacted my pocketbook. For the first time that I can recall, I held a grudge that kept me up at night and ate at me during the day.
Because I didn’t want to miss communion, I tried to convince myself that everything was okay. But I knew this wasn’t the case. As the bread and cup came to me, I refrained from taking part and prayed that this grudge would go away.
That evening, by email, I confessed to Chris that I was upset about what had happened and that it was eating me up. I told Chris I would like to talk things through.
When we met, we each explained where we were coming from. We realized it was a miscommunication, we figured out how it happened, and we both apologized. I was even offered my money back, although I realized that Chris was in the right, so I declined. Then we parted.
All the weight of the grudge I had been carrying was immediately and completely lifted.
The following month, I joyfully took part in communion. While doing so, I pondered how many relationships have been restored and how much peace has been brought, due to admonitions to examine ourselves and to make amends with our brother, and how much more restoration and peace there would be if everyone followed this brilliant advice.
“Finally, brothers, rejoice. Aim for restoration, comfort one another, agree with one another, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you.” – 2 Corinthians 13:11